New home: A couple's guide to getting what you both want

Start by making a list of must-have features of your next house, whether that’s proximity to outstanding local schools, good transport links or space for a guest bedroom. Then, spend some time going through the lists together, prioritising all features that you agree on and putting them onto one master list. 

Don’t expect to have a productive and insightful conversation about buying a new home straight after work, when you’re both tired after a long day. Instead, set aside some quality time to chat through your options, whether you go out for a meal, take the dog for a walk, or simply make time for a cup of tea around the kitchen table. 

Will one of you be working from home? Are you planning on having children? Does one of you have a hobby that requires a little extra space? Think about how you’ll both be using your new home, and make sure the space is adaptable enough for your needs. 

Compromising isn’t always easy, but remember this is a home for both of you to enjoy, and you’ll need to meet in the middle wherever possible. Recognise and acknowledge what matters to your partner, make sure they do the same for you, and above all else make sure you communicate openly and honestly throughout the whole process. 

There are lots of different ways to own a house as a couple, so make sure you explore all of your options and choose an ownership and mortgage that works for you both. From shared ownership to tenants in common and Help to Buy, do your research using independent, impartial sites such as the Homeowners Alliance, and seek advice from professionals, family, friends and colleagues. If you’re feeling confused, make a list of the pros and cons of each and go from there.